We leave the theater thinking to ourselves, "Why doesn't he serenade me with love songs underneath my bedroom window?" and "Why can't I live happily ever after?" It's no wonder that these poor boys would rather take us to a kung-fu action film.
Find out how movies warp your thoughts about true romance by asking yourself the following questions. Then read on for the antidote.
After watching a romantic movie, do you feel like you've been ripped off?
So what's a girl to do? For starters, don't put so much pressure on your guy to be Prince Charming. How would you like it if after every action movie your boy saw, he wished you would go bungie jumping more and learn how to repel down the side of office buildings?
Do you compare your boyfriend to male heartthrobs in films?
If you find yourself falling for the likes of Leonardo DiCaprio in
Titantic or some other hunk-a-burnin' love just because he plays a
sensitive boy looking for Ms. Right, don't. These are actors playing
a part. In everyday life, even folks like Johnny Depp have problems and
personality flaws. Nobody is perfect, even if they look like they should be.
So don't make your boyfriend compete with fictional characters, unless of
course you don't mind be compared with Barbie and Lara Croft.
Do you blame Hollywood for your boring relationships?
If so, quit it! I hate to break it to you, but chances are you were tainted
from the very beginning. Remember Cinderella, Snow White and
Sleeping Beauty? I thought so. These kinds of
boy-sweeps-girl-off-feet-and-lives-happily-ever-after story lines have been
around since the dawn of dating. But real relationships take work—and
lots of it. There will be disappointments and communication breakdowns along
with all the good stuff. So if you don't want to fall victim to high
romantic expectations, cut your relationship some slack and join the rest of
us here in reality.
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